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and we feel special when we have drama. 'I admit she has a point. I tend to think of Paul when I'm feeling bored and past my prime, and it allows me to feel sorry for myself. But it could be costing me dear, Nina warns: 'When your past takes up a lot of your time, you can then lose out on the future you really want,' she says. I have a sickening realisation that holding on to Paul is partly why I'm nowhere near starting the family I dream of.
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Men I've dated since have seemed so disappointing in comparison that now I can't even be bothered to look, despite the giant biological clock ticking over my head. Tara suggests I come to her for three sessions, confident she can help me get over my obsession. Given that, at 45 a session, it's a fair bit cheaper than other therapies I've considered, I give it a go. When I visit, the pale decor and water feature tinkling in the background of her East Sussex home do little to calm the sudden fit of nerves that cause me to babble about Paul at high speed. Andrea says she constantly criticised Paul and once called him a rubbish lover to his face (posed by models)For the life of me, I can't muster any positive emotions at all. She suggests I just imagine someone I really care about looking at me and use the good feeling that creates.